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Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Assertive Rights

A late night reminder, that is in Minnesota time, of our assertive rights.  

1. You have the right to judge yourself on your thoughts, choices, actions, and feelings.

2. You  have the right to not give an excuse or explanation for you choices.

3. You have the right to decide for yourself whether you want to find a solution for someone else’s problem.

4. You have the right to change your mind.

5. You have the right to make mistakes and bear responsibility for them yourself.

6. You have the right to say “I don’t know”.

7. You have the right not to be liked.

8. You have the right to be illogical.

9. You have the right to say “I don’t understand”.     

10. You have the right to say “I don’t want this”.

Some notes on these rights.

The assertive rights stated here do not imply that you should always change your mind, or never give an explanation for your choices and actions, or that you should try and avoid to help people solve their problems. On the contrary, if it doesn’t get your balance, your work, or you health in trouble, you probably should. It makes this world a much nicer place to roam around in. These rights merely remind you of the fact that you do not have to be perfect, you do not have to take the whole world upon your shoulders, and you are better off being honest with yourself and your environment. In the long run, no one benefits from you if you persistently ingnore your own needs, health, and boundaries. And to be clear, all these rights, all these choices, have consequences for you and your environment no matter which way your choice will lean. Consequences that you have to accept as part of the deal.

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