Friday, January 6, 2017
If you don’t know what you stand for,
please don’t expect others to follow you.
If you don’t believe in it,
please don’t expect your people to put their heart and soul into it.
If you don’t own your mistakes and misjudgments and act accountable,
please expect others to blame, cover-up, justify, and deny.
If you don’t break down truth-telling barriers,
please expect sugar-coating, beating around the bush, and dishonesty.
If you don’t demonstrate courage in tough moments,
please expect cowardice to reign.
If you are not comfortable with vulnerability,
please expect others to avoid emotions, not-knowing, and unpleasantries.
If you don’t have the humility to be quiet, follow, and let others shine
please expect arrogance, self-importance, and pretentiousness.
If you are not reflective, self-aware, and self-critical,
please don’t expect others to happily show these qualities.
If you don’t walk your talk,
please do expect others to follow your example.
Leadership simplified: conviction, accountability, candor, courage, vulnerability, humility, self-awareness, modeling.
Wednesday, January 4, 2017
On March 3rd you want to be at St. Catherine's University where I'll speak at The Leadership Imperative, a professional development day for current and emerging women leaders. This is a great professional development opportunity for (aspiring) women leaders!
Date: March 3, 2017
Location: St. Catherine University, 2004 Randolph Ave, St. Paul
Tuesday, January 3, 2017
Hope to see you on Mon. Jan. 16 at the PMI-MN Chapter Dinner for my presentation: “Mini-MBA” Psychology for Project and Program Managers, where I’ll be providing practical leadership development.
Location: Crowne Plaza Mpls AIRPORT, 3 Appletree Square in
Bloomington, MN. Speaker: Carolien Moors
Are you ever surprised by someone’s responses? Have you ever felt you had too little control in a conversation? Do you ever wish you’d understand someone’s motivations better? It’s this human side of project management that makes it interesting and complicated. Effective project management relies on technical abilities, organizational skills and soft skills. The latter help you deal with the numerous human complexities of your job and is the focus of this session. As a project manager you have to be psychologically savvy and socially skilled to effectively balance the needs and demands of different stakeholders, to navigate conflicting styles and team tensions, and to deal with accountability and scope concerns to name just a few. During this dinner session you will gain relevant insights and practical tips from cognitive and gestalt psychology, system thinking, Adlerian and positive psychology, and from renowned research studies pertaining to human behavior in the workplace. We will discuss the impact of human motivations, interpersonal allergies, thinking patterns, fears, and tendencies on the perception of people and situations and how they are subsequently handled. You will learn about thought-provoking questions to ask yourself that will increase your self-awareness. We will discuss the benefits of changing your narrative, of correcting your assumptions and thinking errors, of the power and pitfalls of focus and much more. This session will help you understand and influence yourself, others, and situations better to increase your effectiveness as a project or program manager.
5:00 Career Networking Group
5:30 Practitioner Communities
6:00 New Member Orientation
7:15 Webstream broadcast begins
7:20 PMI-MN Chapter Business / Intros
8:20 Q & A
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
Business Women's Network
Business Women's Network
Thankful to announce a Business Women's Network event that I will speak at: An Evening with Carolien Moors, Thu. Dec. 8, 2016 at Cambria Gallery, hosted by BWN member Vicki Giefer, CBS Radio at 625 Second Avenue S, Minneapolis. We start with networking at 4.30, followed by my presentation 5.30-6.30 and concluding with continued conversation and networking. Topic: Strengthening your Leadership with Awareness and Accountability. Please join us for a meaningful evening: http://www.bwn-tc.com/events.html
Friday, October 7, 2016
Next speaking engagement:
"The Brain" on Tue Oct. 11, 2016
Minnesota Continuing Legal Education Conference
Focus and Time Management -
What Neuroscience Tells Us About Improving These Critical Skills
Every time you focus your attention you are using glucose and other metabolic resources. Studies by Professor of Psychology at Florida State University Roy Baumeister and his colleagues show that each task that you perform tends to make you less effective at the next task. Whether we are at home, in the workplace, or elsewhere, we are constantly fighting off distractions and battling conflicting priorities. This session focuses on practical tips for avoiding and suppressing distractions, on a 4-step focused-attention-meditation, which will help you sustain attentional focus, and on other neuroscience-based practices to increase your ability to focus and manage your priorities, energy, and time best.
Tuesday October 11, 2016, Minnesota CLE Conference Center, 600 Nicollet Mall, Suite 370, Minneapolis
Friday, September 30, 2016
Positive psychology, founded by dr. Martin Seligman, is the scientific study of what makes people flourish. It is the study of the strengths and virtues that enable you to thrive. Positive Psychology helps you focus on what is working, on what can be done or controlled, on what is here now, and it helps you thrive by motivating you to focus on possibilities, opportunities and gratitude.
Positive psychology is not an over-reliance or exaggeration of things towards the positive. Below you find 7 practices from positive psychology. Choose. Practice. Thrive.
1. Write a “self-compassion” letter, in which you treat yourself with compassion while confronting your mistakes and shortcomings. Refrain from harsh criticism, judgments, and condemnations and write this letter to yourself as if it was from a supportive yet candid friend.
2. List your five main strengths and answer the following questions:
- How much do I use this strength?
- Is it wise to use it more or maybe less?
- Could my use of this strength be an example of “Too much of a good thing turns into a bad thing.” So which strength would I be better off toning down? For example: decisiveness can become pushiness if you over-do it.
- At the other end of the spectrum, a strength underused is one gone to waste so: Which strength am I under-using?
3. Adjust the narrative that you hold about a challenging situation that involves other people and ask yourself:
1. What am I exaggerating?
2. What may I be over-personalizing?
3. Am I checking what I perceive to be facts?
4. What other explanation or narrative could be true?
5. Do I have enough data to freak out? (Brené Brown)
6. How can I focus more on what is working, on what can be changed?
4. Emotions and mindsets are contagious, so be mindful who you surround yourself with: can-do, caring, interested people who can add new perspectives and who are candid with you are good people to be around.
5. Strengthen resilience and decrease stress by writing in your daily gratitude journal: Every afternoon/evening your write down 3 specific things you are grateful for that day. Do not repeat examples the next day. You want to train your mind to hunt for the good, not to get in a ‘lazy’ repetition mode.
6. Seek approval only from the people who really matter at times that it really matters. People-pleasing is draining your energy, hampering candor and depth, and most of all: it is impossible to please everyone.
7. Increase your awareness and mindfulness by focusing on being in the moment, here and now, whether you are in a meeting, in your car, walking with a coworker to the parking lot or any other situation. Gently push distracting thoughts aside and tell them you’ll deal with them at a certain time during the day, just not now.