Are you avoidant, a sandwich lover, brutally direct and confrontational, somewhat direct, or plain nervous and clumsy when it comes to providing unpleasant feedback? It makes you totally human if you recognize any of the above. Providing someone with unpleasant feedback is often literally unpleasant, despite all the talk about feedback being a gift. You and I know that in a way it is a gift, because you provide someone with additional insight into the person, the behaviors, and the result, and hopefully into how to be more effective. But when you’re on the receiving side of unpleasant feedback, it generally doesn’t feel like a gift. At least not at first.
Wishing you honest, open, and constructive feedback conversations, whether in business or in private settings, whether provider or receiver of feedback. Manage those expectations before unmanaged expectations control the conversation.