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If you do not adapt, if you do not learn, you will wither, you will die.

Monday, December 17, 2012

What will you start, stop, continue? Right here, right now – not January first?

New Year resolutions irritate me.

I said it. I wrote it.

I briefly hesitated. Shall I replace ‘irritate’ by something less strong?
It’s rather rigid and judgmental of me to get irritated about something like New Year resolutions, especially if they're not even mine. 

But I do, because they totally don’t make sense to me. One of procrastination’s biggest allies is a resolution for the future. Why wait one more month, week, day, or even an hour?  If you know where to go, how to go, how to be, what to do, what to stop, and what to start, why do you have to wait for a certain symbolic date?

You don’t. It’s just another excuse to let you off the hook for right now. I did this so many times with smoking. I was going to quit at the beginning of summer. I would quit on January 1st. I was most definitely going to quit after that party… Until, on a very regular, normal day, right after and before another fun event, I stopped. Yes, with the help of a loving friend, and no, not postponing it even one more hour.

How to do this? Simple (maybe not easy): Be true to yourself. Be honest. Be realistic. And be determined.

Better 1 action put to real practice than 10 ideas that remain floating between that desirable future accomplishment and here-and-now implementation.

Right now, a couple of minutes before noon on the 17th of December, 2012, I can tell you I will continue to work hard and smart to:
- Judge slowly.
- Question regularly.
- Listen intently.
- Fail humbly.
- Serve daily.

My stop and start list I’ll keep to myself. It’s not about me. It’s about you. What will you start, stop, and continue to do as of NOW?


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  2. Mahalo for sharing, Carolien. I vow to:
    - Be & stay present with you, during our time together.
    - Keep learning, to help you and me grow.
    - Stay conscious, and release non-beneficial thoughts.
    - Set clear intentions, which help us all do our highest good.
    - Love you unconditionally.
    - Listen for understanding.

    Please remind me when I slip.

    Namaste, my friend,
    Anne Pryor

    1. Dear Anne,

      Thank you for sharing your 6 points of focus. Your first and last one I perceive to be foundations for everything else: Being present and listening-for-understanding. I know you will need little reminder and I know you will inspire others. Thank you for that.