Saturday, May 18, 2013
Conspiracies of Silence
If you seal your lips when you really should be speaking out,
If you don’t address the problem that everyone knows about,
If you notice failure but don’t acknowledge it,
If you let difficult truths remain unspoken,
If blind spots and self-deception go unchallenged,
If you allow yourself and others to ignore, suppress and distort information,
You may feel safe,
You may be able to avoid risk,
You may do as everyone is doing,
You may perceive communication to be constructive …
… but …
Whatever rational or irrational fears keep you from having candid conversations, a few things are certain. Dead certain:
à Problems that are not acknowledged do not get better on their own.
à Truths that are not spoken have an impact. The wrong kind.
à Critical information that is left out of the equation still adds up. To the wrong sum.
à Failing to elicit, hear, and act on critical feedback puts everyone and everything at risk.
à Organizational secrets distort information, practices, and relationships.
à An absence of courage and candid conversations jeopardizes you, your family, your team, and your organization.
Don’t be a conspirator to silence. Don’t contribute to destruction of transparency, creativity, effectiveness, and true respect.
The most positive, contagious, and productive state of mind is candor filled with compassion and humility. Yes, they do go together. Very well.